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Why Boundaries Are the Choreography of Love

Here’s what nobody tells you about relationships: total freedom kills connection. We’ve been taught to believe that love means “no limits,” as if real love requires endless tolerance. That’s not love; that’s codependency. The best relationships grow from thoughtful boundaries, not endless flexibility. The Dance of Connection In partner dance, from Argentine tango to bachata, salsa, and contact improvisation, the river and rock metaphor describes how connection works. Let’s set the record straight: this isn’t one partner as order, the other as chaos....

October 13, 2025 · Luis de Sousa
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Outsourcing Ubuntu: Why Africa’s Open-Source Infrastructure Matters

Africa’s digital sovereignty just suffered a quiet blow. Earlier this month, South Africa’s TENET — the non-profit serving universities and research institutions — announced it will shut down its long-standing mirror service (mirror.ac.za). For most, the loss may look invisible. But behind the silence lies a bigger question: Will Africa shape its own digital future, or depend on infrastructure it does not control? For years, TENET hosted local copies of Linux distributions, CRAN (for the R programming language), and other open-source repositories....

August 25, 2025 · Luis de Sousa
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Marketplace Mayhem Meets Miscommunication

Start by watching the video below, then dive into the post. 🔗 Watch on YouTube Introduction In this hilarious comedy performance, Lou Wall, a multi-media stand-up comedian, recounts the story of trying to give away a free bed frame on Facebook Marketplace. What should have been a simple exchange turns into a chaotic saga when Eileen misinterprets pickup times, arrives at 5 a.m., steals a neighbour’s bed, and sends increasingly bizarre messages with dramatic emoji usage....

May 30, 2025 · Luis de Sousa